Pain as Emotions

I think that's what's wrong with the world. No one says what they feel, they always hold it inside, they're sad, but they don't cry, they're happy, but they don't dance or sing, because if they do, they feel ashamed and that's the worst feeling in the world. So everyone walks with their heads down and no one sees how beautiful the sky is.

~ Louise Fitzhugh

The one who can adjust to any situation with humility, possess true greatness. The one who knows how to adjust is the one who knows how to survive. If you bang your head against the wall when problems come, your brain will get messed up. The reason you lose happiness or do not feel really happy deep down is your own insolence. It starts with your thoughts. When you start being positive about life and not always rating your fellow man, the light within will shine even unto your darkness that it also starts to reflect around you. As a child of God, forbearance is a good quality. Be like a web of love that catches in all that comes.

When we lose our tolerance for discomfort, we lose joy.

~Brown Brené

By pain, I do not mean physical hurt from any kind of injury. When you light up your cigarette and start to smoke or drink whiskey, or sleep, or work, it does not fully take the pain away. 

•Smoking will make you angry, thereby transferring your pain to people again. 

•Those who are afraid to face reality or tired of reality are those who sleep pointlessly. They react negatively to truth because they enjoy sleep. 

•The cigar from smoking affects you wholly that you become burnt inside, I mean those lungs, the whiskey gives you memory loss. 

•And when you wake from sleep, you remember the pain again anyways and when you engage in work, you stress yourself, thereby feeling lazy afterwards. 

Drinking, apart from being a sin of debauchery, surpresses emotions and you would start to act in a senseless manner. There is no spirit any longer, only body. You are not in the state of creation, no consciousness, no awareness. Your body gets to be the one controlling you. It leads to guilt and shame later when you do things unaware. Those drugs and alcohol could make you go mental with neurosis or other more dangerous pathologies. There is pain in truth. Telling lies is a way to shun reality. Those lies will lead to more lies. The one you tell today will force you to lie again tomorrow. This leads to more lies or even killings, it becomes habit and then shame and then more deaths just because of that one lie. Who cares, afterall we are just humans, not God and mistakes do happen. Spending will lead to money-shortage. Surgeries can't fix all your insecurities but only shows them off. When you oversleep, you'll wake and crave more sleep, or even more dangerous, you might get sick, or even more, develop a disease. 

All these source from shame. It's not every pain that needs physical healing. Some are meant to be healed internally. And like the moon, we must go through the phases of emptiness to feel full again, to feel motivated once more. As Brené puts it, when we numb the dark, we numb the light. When we do not allow ourselves to be free, we rarely tolerate that freedom in others. Allowing ourselves to feel the pain, that is the risk. When you numb your feelings, you could fake one. Your pain is the key to happiness. Allow yourself experience every feeling as it comes, whether sadness, joy, laughter, tears or surprise. That is living.

Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.

 ~Sigmund Freud

Emotions even last longer than memory. They are what we remember after we meet people. Your emotions are influenced by the people around you. If everyone around you is sad, you will feel sadness too. If everyone is happy and excited, that is infectious and makes others happy as well. This is why it is important to escape toxic environments, especially if people in your surroundings are aggressive and violent. You feel stressed by being around someone who is stressed.

Showing emotion is seen as weak or being foolish. Vulnerability is seen as weakness. Emotions are not just something out of control or something you need to control (but still, control could be needed). It's all experience, response, the process of the present. Without doubt, emotional intelligence is really vital for successful human relationship. Without this, relationships become unhealthy. But it isn't all the time that this means you're aware and take to cognisance, what the other person feels. It also means having to emote, to feel without acting or living one's life based on those feelings that you do feel. It takes a whole lot of emotional intelligence to do that.

People also see the emotion as the opposite of reason which also a bs. And by bs, I mean belief system. Emotions are seen as the 'crying' part alone, which is seen as weakness. What people are ignorant of is that anger is an emotion, competition is from the place of emotion, working is from the place of emotion. Guilt is, love is, fear is, jealousy is, stress is, confidence is, sadness is, happiness is, failure is. We basically live in a world ruled by emotions. Everything should work in one accord and when needed. The world only pushes those around, who lack internal fortitude, so never be afraid, even to experience pain.

Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.

~ Oprah Winfrey

Emotions come naturally but narcissist don't . That one's like an effect of a cause. Your emotion is a message. It is useful. A man who denies his intuition or emotions and gut feelings has neither self trust nor love. Some people listen to their gut feelings only when they need to find out about the most trivial of things but never in the phase of life. 

No feeling is negative or positive. It all depends on your acceptance. Those emotions you deem negative are telling you to do something. If you do not want it then ultimately you do not want to see it in others. Your emotions serve you. When you make war, you are not listening or interacting with your inner guide. In fact you are at war with your own self. Power has been placed within you, not in any weapon. The weapon itself is unimportant. What's more dangerous is the anger within man himself. You are more powerful than any weapon and this is why self-control is very important. 

According to today's bs, self control, or rather, emotional stoicism is rewarded. Emotional stoicism is chosen over vulnerability. This is way far from empathy. Right from birth, mothers detest seeing their male children cry and immediately do something to stop him They attend to him more than they do, the females as a matter of fact. They do nothing until she stops crying. Some girls even turn into what is known as 'tomboy'. Some people also get their male gender changed because they may be simply low on testosterone. Stoicism is also a reason for the female tomboy attitude. Some people even live in their minds, deceiving their hearts. Even if they are not something, they try so much to believe that which they are not and it later drives them insane. Truth is, if you don't accept destiny, you will end up fighting reality. This happens when you become scared of being who you truly are. It's the fact. 

"We avenge intellect when we dupe a fool, and it is a victory not to be despised for a fool is covered with steel and it is often very hard to find his vulnerable part. 

In fact, to gull a fool seems to me an exploit worthy of a witty man. I have felt in my blood, ever since I was born, a most conquerable hatred towards the whole tribe of fools".

~Jean Jacques (Casanova)

This is still very interesting to me as I was thinking, was he implying satirically that only the 'fools', that is, people who made decisions and lived life based on pure logic, were intelligent, as he used the word, 'intellect'...witty indeed, so paradoxical. The witty man speaks the language of the stupid and makes sense.

So we still even have Augustans in this age of civilisation. People say they are scared to fall in love because it would bring out the vulnerable part of them, their truth. How will love find you in that manner. Others do not show it when they love. Many are scared to show their hurt because it will result in showing their vulnerability and there are many who are scared of what people will say. But it may seem as though I'm asking you to weep in the public, no, it's not that. I'm only telling you it's not all the time you need to act strong. I may understand because there are people who condescend based on looks and material substance, condescend based on emotions of others and condescend based on intellect, as far as the intellect of each goes. Also, I'm one of those people if you wish to know.

And most of all, about the feeling of anger, express your feelings of anger. Talk it out. Be angry. You give people power over you when you do not make them know and make them question you or it seems as though you are 'fake', as they say, when it is expressed as paroxysm. These are conflicts that need to be expressed, do not leave it in you through nighttime. Get physical about your emotions. Be who you are. Cry, laugh, frown, be human. Live. But if you do not want to feel it intensely, do not burn. 

The moon only stays bright if it does not avoid the night. Even the moon which the sky never saw even in dreams has risen.

~Rumi

Your health problems are related to your mental and emotional state. To achieve peace from within, we should see example in how the body coordinates itself. Your body teaches you to take care of it. You fail to exist as consciousness when you do not heal naturally. Focus on consciousness and believe everything functions as one. Mental illness and lunacy, stress, anger, depression are all workings of the mind unless you are at peace with yourself. Followers, fame, work, shopping are all used to cure depression or boredom or such. There are no such things as burdens or stress if you are self-aware (but not selfish). The only thing which is going to end and which should go away is life, according to Sadhguru. The psychological or physiological really has nothing to do with the reality. It's just what we think and be. What we think, we do be and how we think, we do see. And whatever we do here, that has no spiritual significance, is all to no use. It's my choice, it's your choice to choose to be affected by the works of the mind.

Follow your inner guide or wisdom or intuition and let your knowledge lead you to act upon it and about the latter, when next I'm back after the second completion of this subject, we shall analyze. Let your behavior and intention be in sync. If you numb pain, you will definitely fake one. The more you hide your feelings, the more they show. The more you deny them, the more they grow. You cannot fake sadness. You can fake smiles but not laughter. I mean these in earnest. Those who shun your emotions have not accepted their humanity and you have to teach them how to. 

The pain is a treasure which contains mercies. When you allow yourself to feel the pain, you get stronger and wiser and that becomes your experience. The pressure to feel upbeat can make you feel downbeat while embracing your darker moods can actually make you feel better in the long run. Happiness is an emotion. However don't be too happy because when you are, you will not have the ability to experience the hardest times. You alone have the power to grant yourself happiness.